Friday, August 21, 2020

Week 8: Holy ground: where do we meet God?


‘Hagar and Ishmael’, Jakob Steinhardt


You can LISTEN to this week's readings and reflections here.


Genesis 21:8-21

The child [Isaac] grew, and was weaned; and Abraham made a great feast on the day that Isaac was weaned. But Sarah saw the son of Hagar the Egyptian, whom she had borne to Abraham, playing with her son Isaac. 10 So she said to Abraham, “Cast out this slave woman with her son; for the son of this slave woman shall not inherit along with my son Isaac.” 11 The matter was very distressing to Abraham on account of his son. 12 But God said to Abraham, “Do not be distressed because of the boy and because of your slave woman; whatever Sarah says to you, do as she tells you, for it is through Isaac that offspring shall be named for you. 13 As for the son of the slave woman, I will make a nation of him also, because he is your offspring.” 14 So Abraham rose early in the morning, and took bread and a skin of water, and gave it to Hagar, putting it on her shoulder, along with the child, and sent her away. And she departed, and wandered about in the wilderness of Beer-sheba.

15 When the water in the skin was gone, she cast the child under one of the bushes. 16 Then she went and sat down opposite him a good way off, about the distance of a bowshot; for she said, “Do not let me look on the death of the child.” And as she sat opposite him, she lifted up her voice and wept. 17 And God heard the voice of the boy; and the angel of God called to Hagar from heaven, and said to her, “What troubles you, Hagar? Do not be afraid; for God has heard the voice of the boy where he is. 18 Come, lift up the boy and hold him fast with your hand, for I will make a great nation of him.” 19 Then God opened her eyes and she saw a well of water. She went, and filled the skin with water, and gave the boy a drink.

20 God was with the boy, and he grew up; he lived in the wilderness, and became an expert with the bow. 21 He lived in the wilderness of Paran; and his mother got a wife for him from the land of Egypt.


Genesis 32:22-32

22 The same night [Jacob] got up and took his two wives, his two maids, and his eleven children, and crossed the ford of the Jabbok. 23 He took them and sent them across the stream, and likewise everything that he had. 24 Jacob was left alone; and a man wrestled with him until daybreak. 25 When the man saw that he did not prevail against Jacob, he struck him on the hip socket; and Jacob’s hip was put out of joint as he wrestled with him. 26 Then he said, “Let me go, for the day is breaking.” But Jacob said, “I will not let you go, unless you bless me.” 27 So he said to him, “What is your name?” And he said, “Jacob.” 28 Then the man said, “You shall no longer be called Jacob, but Israel, for you have striven with God and with humans, and have prevailed.” 29 Then Jacob asked him, “Please tell me your name.” But he said, “Why is it that you ask my name?” And there he blessed him. 30 So Jacob called the place Peniel, saying, “For I have seen God face to face, and yet my life is preserved.” 31 The sun rose upon him as he passed Penuel, limping because of his hip.

A ‘cutting’ of tree wisdom: the value of thorny scrub (Genny Tunbridge)

The desperate Hagar finds shelter in the wilderness for Ishmael under a bush, and comes to see this wild, apparently inhospitable place as home. In our own country we have ‘wasteland’ as seemingly inhospitable as Hagar’s wilderness – characterised by dense thickets of thorny scrub, full of brambles, gorse, hawthorn and blackthorn. There are edible gifts hidden here – blackberries ripe for the picking, and sloes on the blackthorn waiting to be turned into sloe gin – but we are rightly wary of the prickles and thorns.

Yet the very thorns which deter us offer protection to other species. The safest nursery for young oak saplings is in the middle of thorny scrub, shielded from nibbling by rabbits or deer until grown large enough to survive – thus an old forestry saying ‘The thorn is the mother of the oak’.[1]

Perceived as ‘messy, unproductive wasteland’, much scrub has been cleared in recent decades – one reason for the dramatic decline of the UK nightingale population (down 90% in the since 1960s). Arriving in spring, these West African migrants need thickets of blackthorn and bramble to sing, mate and build their nests, safe from predators behind impenetrable thorns, as described in John Clare’s poem ‘The Nightingale’s Nest’[2]:

Aye, as I live! her secret nest is here,
Upon this white-thorn stump! I’ve searched about
For hours in vain. There! put that bramble by …

Snug lie her curious eggs in number five…
And the old prickly thorn-bush guards them well.
So here we’ll leave them ….

Nature is the builder, and contrives
Homes for her children’s comfort, even here.

Introduction to the theme (Al Barrett)

Last week, we began thinking about the kinds of ‘holy ground’ where we encounter God, and some of the ways that God calls us. With Abraham and Sarah, we heard God’s call to ‘go’, to leave behind what is familiar, and to set out on a journey, trusting God’s promises to go with us and to bless us. This is the story of the beginnings of the people of Israel: a people through whom God would bring blessing to the whole world.

This week, we go a little bit further with Abraham and Sarah, but turn our attention to two of their descendants. And we think a bit more about where and how we encounter God.

Hagar and Ishmael

God had promised a child to Abraham and Sarah, but that child was slow to appear. Rather than waiting for God’s promise to come in its own good time, Abraham and Sarah tried other options! Abraham had a son with Sarah’s ‘slave-girl’, Hagar – Ishmael, they called him. And then, 14 years later, Sarah had a son too – Isaac. In Genesis chapter 21, Sarah is jealous of Ishmael, and gets Abraham to get rid of both Ishmael and his mother Hagar. And it’s wandering in the wilderness, at the point of despair, that Hagar and Ishmael meet with God.

In fact, it’s the second time that Hagar has met God in the wilderness. She had already run away from Sarah’s anger once before – and that time God had promised her a son, and given him the name Ishmael, which means ‘God hears’. And Hagar had given God a name too: ‘El-roi’, which means ‘God who sees’ (Genesis 16, v.13). Twice, then, Hagar has met God in the wilderness: a God who sees her, and hears her.

Jacob / Israel

That second encounter in the desert is the last we hear of Hagar and Ishmael. Isaac becomes the centre of the story. When he grows up, and not long after Sarah’s death, Abraham commissions his head servant ‘back home’ (to the land Abraham had left, at the beginning of this journey) to find Isaac a wife. The servant goes, and he meets a woman at a well (familiar?!): Rebekah. Rebekah goes with the servant to meet Isaac, and the two of them get married. They have twin sons, Esau and Jacob, and the first thing we hear about Jacob (Genesis 25) is that he tricks his older brother out of his birthright – as the price for a helping of stew! The next thing we hear about Jacob (Genesis 27) is that he tricks his blind, dying father into giving his blessing to Jacob rather than Esau. Unsurprisingly, Esau is furious, and Jacob runs away. When we meet Jacob in chapter 32, he is on his way to meet Esau. He has heard that Esau is coming to meet him with 400 men, which doesn’t sound promising, and so Jacob sends an advance party ahead with a present for his brother: goats, sheep, camels, cows and donkeys. Jacob is worried, and he’s not taking any chances. And that’s when he finds himself, in the middle of the night, in the middle of a stream, wrestling with none other than God.

Where Hagar in the wilderness gets to give God a new name, in this night-time struggle in the stream God refuses to give away her name and it is Jacob who is re-named: he is no longer Jacob ‘the trickster’, but Israel, the one who has ‘struggled with God’. Jacob-who-is-now-Israel goes away blessed, and wounded, but nevertheless, like Hagar, he has seen God face to face.

Reflection (Ruth Harley)

In today’s texts we have the stories of two quite different encounters with God: Hagar in the wilderness at the point of despair, receiving the water she needs to keep her son and herself alive; and Jacob, wrestling for a blessing, which he does receive, but only alongside an injury. Neither of these are, perhaps, typical of what we might think of when we think about meeting God. But one thing the many and varied stories of scripture teach us is that there is no ‘one size fits all’ model of encounter with the divine.

When I was a little girl, I went to a Church of England primary school. This is where I first heard about God, and first encountered the idea that God is someone you could have a relationship with, could communicate with. It was where I first came across the idea of prayer. At my primary school, we were given a very clear idea of how prayer should happen. Prayers were to begin “Dear God”, they were to end “Amen.”, and – and this was very thoroughly impressed upon us – they were to include the words “thank you” and/or “please”. This is how I was taught to approach God – it was important to get it right, and important to be polite.

And, of course, those please and thank you prayers have a place in my prayer life still, although perhaps not in such rigid forms. But they are not the be all and end all of the life of faith. Certainly they are a far cry from the sort of encounter with God which we see in today’s stories. These are not nice, polite, scripted interactions between God and God’s people. They are desperate, raw, real encounters between the awesome and merciful power of God and the frailty of human lives. And they can teach us something about our own encounters with God.

Let’s look at Hagar first. She is desperate at this point in the story – really desperate. Driven out of her home, and now with her son at the point of death, she has nobody to turn to. So what does she do? She does not compose a nice “Dear God… please… Amen” prayer. It is not clear that the words she does speak – “Do not let me look on the death of my child” – are addressed to God at all, or indeed to anyone. They are the distressed cry of a desperate woman. Watching the news recently, of refugees making dangerous sea crossings, of the explosion in Beirut, of the continuing devastation caused by Covid-19 around the world – I wonder how many parents might be uttering those same words. Hagar does not ask God for anything. And yet God acts, and acts in a way which she could never have expected, providing the lifesaving resource of water, or perhaps opening Hagar’s eyes to a resource that was already there – the text is unclear on this point.

And then there is Jacob, wrestling all night with this mysterious stranger, who is perhaps an angel, a messenger from God, or perhaps is God. Either way, as Jacob wrestles, this strange dialogue takes place. There are no ‘please’ and ‘thank you’s here either, although there are certainly demands. Jacob asks for a blessing and the stranger replies by asking his name, and giving him a new one: Israel. Jacob asks the stranger’s name, and instead of answering he gives Jacob the blessing he had asked for before. It’s a curious conversation, and certainly a long way from how we might have been taught as children to think about “talking to God”.

But the God we see in these stories, and throughout much of scripture, is altogether more complicated than the God of the children’s prayer book who awaits our polite requests and grants them. And our relationship with God is, or has the potential to be, far more complex too – richer and deeper, encompassing every aspect of life. 

In the story of Hagar and Ishmael in the wilderness, we see a God who does not wait to be asked, a God whose saving action does not rely on politely phrased requests. This is the God who hears our despair even when we can’t put it into words, and who is still present and active when the situation seems to us to be too far beyond hope even to pray about it.

In the story of Jacob wrestling, we see a God who does not give us easy answers, but who allows us to grapple and wrestle with who God is and who we are in relation to God.  This is the God who has room for the difficult questions, space for us to bring all our doubts and wonderings. This is the God who responds to our demands – but not in the ways we expect. This too is the God who does not allow us to remain unchanged. 

There is a strand of Christian thought that wants to iron out the difficult parts of life, to package faith – and by extension God – into a nice neat framework. But I don’t think God is like that. I don’t think life is like that. And I don’t think the life of faith can, or needs to, duck the tough questions like that. We live in a complex world, and we lead complex lives, and God is big enough to deal with it all.

When we find ourselves pushed beyond our capacity to cope, when we reach a point of desperation, God will meet us there in unexpected ways. Not to solve our problems or make it all ok, but perhaps just to nudge us towards what we need for the next step, the next breath, the next moment. When we find ourselves wrestling with big decisions or difficult questions, problems that seem unsolvable, God will be right there wrestling with us, and even as we wrestle, we will be blessed in strange and unexpected ways which change us forever.

When we think of meeting God, it is tempting to think of drawing apart from our everyday lives, in search of beauty, peace or inspiration. And there is a time and a place for that. But these stories, and so many others like them, inspire us to keep alert to the presence of God in the ordinary, God in the tough stuff, God in the uncertainty. God does not wait for our polite requests or our set-aside times, but comes to meet us, to bless us, and to transform us in all the difficult, glorious, grace infused, human mess of our lives.           

Reflection (Jeannie Lynch)

If God had a name what would it be?
And would you call it to his face?
If you were faced with him in all his glory?
What would you ask if you had just one question?

What if God was one of us,
Just like a slob like one of us
Just a stranger on a bus,
Trying to make his way home.

If God had a face, what would it look like?
And would you want to see
If seeing meant that you would have to believe
in things like heaven and Jesus and the Saints
And all the Prophets

God is love and his face shines brightly like the sun and we cannot look upon it.  But what if we could see God; in our every day, what if when we are out and about, on the bus, in our cars, sitting on our sofas; we could see God.  What would you say?  As Alanis Morrissette, sings in her beautiful song? What one question would you ask?  What would his answer be?

One thing for sure is that God loves us his people, he loves our world and is often out and about in it especially during ancient times as our bible reading shows us today.  Poor Hagar, she has already run away from Abraham and Sarah and now she is forced to leave with her child and very little to sustain them both.  She journeys into the desert and expects first her child to die and then her.  What she does not expect is to find God waiting to save them both and she is given a second chance at life. What Hagar has discovered is that the way someone who loves you says your name, it is different.  She knew that her name and identity, all she was, was enough for God.  Not for Sarah but enough for God, her name was safe when he said it.

If you were Hagar, faced with the unexpected God, what would you do?  Would you be angry at your circumstances, tell him about all those who you struggle with, where would He lead you?  Would your current journey be the same as the one he would show you? How would you cope seeing Him in the ordinary every day?  Would he still be enough for you?  I hope you know that God did not just die for the beautiful dressed people that sit in church every Sunday and read their bibles regularly.  He died for us who cry at night while the world sleeps, then wakes up too late for church and makes seemingly unforgivable mistakes and don’t communicate with him for weeks.  He died for each and every one of us and we are, each and every one of us, enough for Him. Don’t forget that.

Our stories are intricate tapestries just like the people in ancient times. We have treads of thanksgiving for many things such as families, homes, jobs, health. But, also interwoven are strands of sorrow woven with letting go and holding tight onto love things, people we love.  May we remember that who we are is made up of every part of your journey.  Where others often see mess, may we see beauty and remember you are enough. As we journey on in our lives with Gods love shining through with strands of gold, interwoven with his grace, know he has plans for you and you are loved, like Hagar, like you.  If you see God on the bus, give him my love.

5th Gospel (Beth Millman)

Growing up I went to church every Sunday Morning and also had set times in the calendar year where my faith would be more prominent and structured in my life such as Christmas and Easter. I never really thought what about where else I could find God as these times were always present. However over the last several years due to being at university, travelling and moving further away from Hodge Hill Church this has been more difficult. This has encouraged me and enabled me to think more about where I can find God and where I can express my faith away from “Church”. 

There are two significant examples that come to me when I think about finding God in other places. The first one was in New Zealand when I was travelling. I had been travelling for a couple of months and was really missing worship and struggling to find the head space to pray and reflect. I found myself sat on an empty beach fairly early in the morning. I spent a long time sat watching the waves, listening to the nature around me and feeling the wind against my skin. I put some Music on my phone and was lost in thoughts and found myself praying and reflecting more than I had for months. After that morning every time I sat on a quiet beach I was taken back to that place and was extremely thankful for the ability to reconnect with God and reflect. 

The second one was much closer to home. Most of you will probably I am a physiotherapist at Birmingham children’s hospital. This mean I sometimes have to work weekends and bank holidays. This specific time was the first time I had ever worked Christmas Day. I was working from 8 in the morning until 10 in the evening. I had lots of concerns about missing family time, dinner, drinks and presents but I hadn’t really thought how I felt about not having a period of time at church or for reflection. I got half way though my day and although there were presents, Christmas songs and Santas everywhere in the Hospital I just didn’t feel that Christmas magic.... until I walked past our beautiful chapel and heard O little town of Bethlehem coming from inside. I sat in the chapel and listened to the music and was taken to a deep reflective Christmassy place which I was able to take with me for the rest of the day. 

One thing that I have realised really helps me connect with God is music. This can be worship music, music with reflective lyrics or even music that takes me on a journey. This always helps me to look around and see God’s Kingdom and meet with God in the most unlikely places.

A prayer for this journey:

If you would enter into the wilderness, do not begin without a blessing.

Do not leave without hearing who you are: Beloved,
named by the One who has travelled this path before you.

Do not go without letting it echo in your ears,
and if you find it is hard to let it into your heart,
do not despair. That is what this journey is for.

I cannot promise this blessing will free you
from danger, from fear, from hunger or thirst,
from the scorching of sun or the fall of the night.

But I can tell you that on this path there will be help.

I can tell you that on this way there will be rest.

I can tell you that you will know the strange graces
that come to our aid only on a road such as this,
that fly to meet us bearing comfort and strength,
that come alongside us for no other cause
than to lean themselves toward our ear
and with their curious insistence whisper our name:

Beloved. Beloved. Beloved.


(Jan Richardson, Circles of Grace: A Book of Blessings for the Seasons)

Questions for reflection / discussion

As I read / listened to the readings and reflections for this week…

·         what did I notice, or what particularly stood out for me?

 

·         what did they make me wonder, or what questions am I pondering?

 

·         what have they helped me realise?

 

·         is there anything I want to do or change in the light of this week's topic?

 

On this week’s theme – Holy ground: where do we meet God?

·         How have I encountered God ‘in church’ – or in gatherings together? What kind of experience was it?


·         How have I encountered God at home – especially in this time when we’ve not been able to meet together ‘in church’? What kind of experience was it?


·         Where have I encountered God in places of difficulty and hardship? What kind of experience was it?


·         Where else in the world have I encountered God? What kind of experience was it?


Any other reflections…

 

Activities / conversation-starters with young (and not-so-young!) people

·         Think about the places where you’ve encountered God. Where have you felt awe and wonder – places that made you go ‘wow’? Where have you been filled with joy? Where have you experienced a sense of peace? As you remember these places, you might like to find or create pictures of them, or write down how you felt when you were there.

·         Make your own portable prayer station: Choose or create things which help you to feel close to God. You could include pictures, words and objects. They might link to a special time, place or person that has helped you feel close to God, or they might remind you of God. Pack all your items into a bag, box or other container (you might want to decorate it). Try spending time with your prayer station items in different locations – in your bedroom, in the garden, or out and about.  (You can find out more about portable prayer stations on Ruth’s blog here.

·         This week’s readings are both about people who encounter God in difficult times – Hagar and Jacob. Can you think of other people in the Bible who encounter God in difficult circumstances? Or stories of people in history (eg. Martin Luther King, Oscar Romero, Mother Teresa)? Can you think of times in your own life which have been (or are) difficult – how might God have been (or be) present in those times?

·          If you tried the ‘awareness walk’ or the ‘make your own pilgrimage’ options last week, try repeating them this week. What did you notice that was the same? What did you notice that was different, or that you didn’t notice before? I wonder what God might be saying to you through this… You might want to consider making awareness walking/pilgrimage a regular habit, and be aware of what you notice over time. 



[1] “We need to bring back the wildwoods of Britain to fight climate change” Guardian article by Isabella Tree, 26.11.18 https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/nov/26/wildwoods-britain-climate-change-northern-forest

[2] First published in The Rural Muse, Poems by John Clare in 1835.

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